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Anger is the punishment you give to yourself for the mistake of others Behavioural problems , not technical skills separate the great from the near great. Incredible results from practising basic behaviours like 1.Saying thank you 2.Listening well 3.Thinking before you speak 4.Apologising for your mistakes The first step to change is wanting to change The higher you go in an organisation , the more your suggestions become interpreted as orders. Getting praise can be dangerous because it becomes too easy to delude yourself when all you hear is positive things Delusional self confidence causes you to resist the change You cant control the outcome , wouldnt you want to control what you can ? Even if the cards are stacked againt you in life , your best bet is to try your hardest. Successful people beleive they are in control.the dont see themselves as victims of the world . People will only do something and change when it is in their own best interest and aligns with their values. The four drivers of self interest are Money Power Status Popularity Smart people know what to do.they need to know what to stop. not all behaviour is good or bad.Some behavioures are simply neutral When getting feedback of any type..positive or negative , accept it from a neutral place and say 'thank you'if you don't reply with a judgemental comment, you cant get into an argument. The question to ask yourself when making a destructive comment about some is not 'is it true' but is it worth it?' Dont tell people how smart you are , nobody gives a damn. If you dont communicate what is going on it feels like you are keeping people in the dark .that annoys people . Create a list of people you should give recognition to and then review that list each week to see if you should send someoe praise. Give away all the credit. Clinging to the past:Many people enjoy living in the past, especially if going back there lets them blame someone else for anything that has gone wrong in their lives. Thats when clinging in the past becomes an interpersonal problem ..when we make excuses, we are blaming someone or something beyond our control as the reason of our failure. anyone but ourselves.' When we talk about past it is NOT about change .It is about understanding,and often about blaming others. Just say 'Thank you' to more comments rather than make a big fuss about things .We often have issues with accepting compliments. Hearing people out does not make you dumber.So listen and say thank you. Gratitude is not a limited resource.Express your thanks more often. People who think they can do no wrong usually cant admit they are ever wrong.Which , paradoxically, makes you more wrong Owing up to your mistakes is essential. Your personality is not fixed.you dont have to change your whole life , just improve on a tiny trait. You should feel no shame if pursuit of a difficult goal fails We are so focussed on shortsighted goals and the task in front that we miss the bigger point.Use this as a jumping off point for talking about goals in life.Is woking really the point Main lesson --you can do a lot worse than questioning your flaws.We get so defensive about these things, but what do we realy have to lose? usually , very little Forgiveness means letting go of the hope for a better past. The higher you go the more your problems are behavioural.Interpersonal behaviour is the difference between being great and near great. Knowing the answer to' how do you feel about me?' does not matter when it comes to getting better. what matters is ,'how can i get better?' Apologize , apologise, apologise.Just step up and make the apologies you need to make When u make an apology say 'i am sorry. i'll try to do better.' And then shut up .Dont try to justify. When you listen to someone make them feel like they are the only person in the room.Devote your attention to them . We cant change for the long -run without following up.Follow up shows your colleagues that you care about getting better and that you are taking the process seriously.
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